Having a second baby

Doing it All Over Again

Last week, my two-year-old went to bed at the usual time of 7:30 pm and slept in till 10:30 am. I don’t say that to brag (well, maybe a little), but rather because I want to document it as I know this sweet, hard-fought victory will be short lived. How can I be sure? Well, just as Elsa has started sleeping in later than me on a regular basis, we have decided to have another child, and our baby is due on 20th February.

This is how Elsa helped us announce the news to the world:



Having a Second Baby

For the last year and a half, she’s been really good at sleeping through till almost acceptable times and, I think, must have lulled us into a false sense of security. It’s only now there’s another on the way that I remember those mornings where she would rise at 5, having been up a couple of times in the night. There are many things about having a second baby that I’m excited about, but the sleep deprivation is not one of them.

The sickness in the pit of your stomach, the entire body aching, the inability to concentrate on even the simplest of tasks – it’s like a crushing hangover without the fun of the night before. Functioning as a normal human being with a baby takes every ounce of your energy, which you cannot replenish because a full night’s refreshing sleep is just not a possibility.

If I were you, I’d be looking into the franchise plans of any of the leading brand of coffee shops, with a view to opening one at the end of my road. You’ll do well out of me, and potentially also my neighbours, depending on how loud the little cherub is.

The Positives of Sleep Deprivation

I don’t want to be negative really (I know that might not be immediately obvious); it is hugely exciting and thrillingly daunting to be having a second baby at the same time. The one thing I miss about Elsa waking up early is spending quality time with her before work. There are some days when I’m halfway to the office before she has even groggily opened her eyes for the first time. I can predict that the boy and I are destined for a number of those early morning bonding sessions and, although tiring, it is a special time together.

Another opportunity to take from the impending dark cloud of sleeplessness is that there is no feeling on earth like that you experience when you wake up and realise your child has slept through for the first time. Nothing I’ve read about lottery winners’ reactions to their happy news has persuaded me that they feel any more elation than I did after our first night of unbroken sleep following Elsa’s birth.

There are less than four months to go until the boy makes his way into the world, so have you got any advice on preparing for number two? Is it possible to bank sleep before having a second baby? Should I invest in earplugs? Will that lead to divorce? Let me know and keep an eye out for updates as we get closer to the big day.

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